Would've, Could've, Should've

03 December 2022

This song from Taylor Swift dropped about a month ago and got so many people talking about who this song was about considering how jaw-dropping the lyrics were. While many people like myself thought 'girlhood' referenced a particular definition, some people thought that 'girlhood' meant innocence in the general sense.


For context, people think the song Would've Could've Should've is related to the song Dear John, although they're about written ten years apart. I went to read discussions for this song and one comment struck me- how time gives you clarity, how it gives a person a different perspective especially now that Taylor's older and in the same age as that person she was singing about was. 


And I could really relate to that idea. For everything. Now that I've spent time this last couple of years to really look back at my life, I'm amazed at how different the past looks to me now. 

All this time I thought I was navel-gazing, but for the good part of it, I was only filtering the surface and could barely scratch where it actually hurts. I still can't, but it's damning to see.


I put up with a lot of bullshit lol.


When things happened, I thought I could take it, but I couldn't see where it broke me. Did I have rose-colored glasses on? Did I ignore things out of respect? Where do I draw the lines of personal responsibility and finding accountability? Did I gaslight myself? I could see the mess it made out of me, but for a long time I struggled to get out. Maybe it was because I couldn't make sense of the hows and the whys. I still can't, but now I'm beginning to see.

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